No matter where you meet, going on — and sometimes even thinking about — that first date can be nerve-racking. Here are 6 essential first date tips that will get things off to a great start.
1. Intro
2. Location
The key here is for both of you is to be comfortable! Men and women like different things, but it’s easy to find a common ground — concerts, sporting events and comedy clubs are great places to start. Think simple. A first date that’s complicated or multi-part leaves room for too many things to go wrong! Get back to your younger roots. Activities like rollerskating, iceskating, go-karting, bowling and miniature golf are fun and help to break the ice. Check out these 10 great first date ideas.
3. Look (and smell) great
This one might seem obvious, but you’d be surprised at what some people forget to do. Be neatly groomed. Brush your hair and teeth, trim your beard… you know the drill! Wear deodorant. Trust me, I’d love to not have to include this tip. Don’t overdo the perfume or cologne. You don’t want to overwhelm your date. And keep in mind: Some people have allergies to certain sprays. Dress appropriately for the date — and beyond the first one! If you’re going to a baseball game, don’t dress formally — jeans are your friend. It goes both ways, so make sure you don’t overdress or underdress. You might want to show off, but you’ll end up looking like a fool. Dressing sexy doesn’t always mean dressing seductively.
4. Getting physical
There really is no right or wrong here, but keep a few things in mind: Stick to your principles. A kiss at the end of your first date is appropriate as long as it feels right. If you’re looking for a long-term relationship, no sex on the first date. This complicates things, seriously — respect yourself and you’ll be respected. Ideally, no sex until monogamy so you can build a real relationship. If you’re looking for casual sex, then you know when it’s right. Be safe!
5. Leave history in the past
No ex talk. Your date doesn’t want to picture you with someone else. This tip definitely goes beyond the first date. Keep the baggage to yourself and the skeletons in your closet.
6. Do not drink too much
You need your wits, so keep them about you. A drunk, slurring date isn’t hot. A two-drink maximum is a good goal. It’ll take the edge off, but you’ll still be able to keep focus.
7. Be honest and positive
Be real! At the end of the date, don’t say you’ll call if you’re not going to. Everyone likes to know where they stand, so if you had a great time — say so!